Paths become soothing when there is someone who accompanies you throughout. Life is a path which is combination of flowers and stones. The flowers congratulate you on your success while stones laugh at your failure. But success and failure seems significant when there is someone, whom with you can share your victory and defeat because if that special person is with you then those dangerous stones hurt less and those flowers smile more. It is not easy to find that “someone” in life because devoting yourself completely for that one person matters a lot. Marriage is one of the kinds that brings two soul mates together and unite their different paths as one. There are two types of marriage; love marriage and arranged marriage. The basic idea of love marriage is that two people choose to be together without involvement of third party while arranged marriage is something which is planned by two families to bind their children in a relationship. Success and failure of both types of marriage depend entirely upon the behavior and understanding of persons involved. So it is intricate to say which is more successful however I am more inclined towards arranged marriage. So here are some substantial points which explain the advantages of arranged marriage.
10- Financial security
Financial security is not always the priority in love marriage. But In arranged marriages Parents try to choose suitors who are financially, socially and educationally stable for their children. There is better chance of financial security in arranged marriage rather than love marriage because love marriage is driven by passion and emotions. Arranged marriages are mostly based on long term security and stability which makes life worth living.
9- Both families are satisfied with the relation
Arranged marriages are planned mostly by the families so both families remain satisfied with their decision. Families show positive attitude towards the newly married couple and try to help them in every positive way. Getting a perfect match is not an easy task but once parents find the perfect partner for their son or daughter, they become satisfied with their decision. And this way, all the people and relationships associated with the marriage become part of the ceremony with full enthusiasm and happiness.
8- Better understanding of lifestyle and Religion
The experience of parents in judging a person can help in making a marriage successful that’s why it is said that arranged marriage is more based on logic and thoughtfulness. Parents try to choose right person for their daughter or son who belongs to same religion, same background, same culture and same class which creates mutual understanding in the new relations. Both persons involved in the marriage adopt each others lifestyle very easily and that makes the relationship strong. Also, due to same belief, their actions and deeds resemble with that of other person which helps in developing sustainable relationship in sustainable manner.
7- Low rate of divorce
Life is uncertain, there is no certainty about future but hope is the elevating force that drives people to work hard in order to achieve successful future. Same is the case with arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are carefully formed. There is special importance given to intellectuality, finance, understanding and education that help in building the secure future. And hence, there are fewer chances of divorce.
6- Full family support
In west, marriage is family affair which is celebrated with full zeal and readiness. Arranged marriages are more organized in a way that parents keep account of everything I-e girl’s parents will try to find the perfect match for their daughter who can keep their daughter happy, relax and stable. So after marriage, even if the circumstances change and even the couple face any problem, their families act like soothing shadow that protects the couple from every problem.
Equality is really important for any relation because it keeps on nurturing the relationship in right direction. Equality is main component in arranged marriages. Both persons suit each other in every aspect; be it education or capability. Arranged marriages actually reduce lot of burdens. When a girl or a boy knows that they are going to get marry in arranged style, they don’t waste their energy for hunting a life partner for them. Rather they consume their energy and creativity on purposeful endeavor like education. So in this way, both persons use their talent and skill in nourishing their family hence problems are mutually solved and relationship is strengthened from its deep roots.
4-Each day is full of surprises
Life becomes joyful and lively when each and every day stores special surprises for you. Arranged marriage is the best way to get this fun. Since arranged marriage is negotiated by the parents, love is not the basis of their relationship at first. And because newly married couple is not fully aware of each others habits and ideas, it leaves them with full of surprises. They find new things; reveal odd and funny habits which blossom their relationship like a lily. It also happens that both persons find irritating habits of each other or don’t share the same thoughts about particular topic but both persons try to adjust in the situation and try to nurture their relationship hence love becomes prominent in their marriage with the passing time.
3- Arranged marriages develop into lasting love
Due to same culture and mutual understanding of each others beliefs, Arranged marriages get healthy and lasting. It is true that both persons are stranger to each other before getting into relationship but after marrying, these two people start feeling for each other. With the passages of time love, trust and affection become visible in the relationship. Research has also proved that, the feeling of love is more visible in arranged marriages as compare to love marriages because arranged marriages are rational and helpful for long term while love marriages are deeply based on passion and impulse.
2- Arranged marriages are well-planned
Arranged marriage is popular East while West thinks of it as stranger idea. Arranged marriage is believed to be safe because both partners complete each other in suitable manner. Parents make lots of efforts in order to get perfect match for their son or daughter. And this kind of thinking proves to be helpful in long term because practically speaking, love is not the only need in life but there are more important things in life with love which complete the life.
1- Stronger Commitments
Love is second place in arranged marriages but commitment is the first step. The newlyweds take responsibility of each other by staying committed to each other. They take mutual decisions which can benefit both of them and their families. They try to perform task in a way that it does not hurt the other person. They co-operate and compromise in order to make their relationship strong. And hence wise and mature actions make place of love in the relationship.